Internet Safety: A Teen’s Point of View

I asked my daughter to write a guest post on internet safety for teens. (Well, okay, it was more of a required lesson after a doozy of a slip up while online. We wanted her to do her own research and learn more about online safety and I wanted her perspective to offer other parents.)
In preparation, she spent time online watching many PSAs and learning internet safety tips, but I was amazed to see that in her writing, she focused more on our actions as parents helping her (even though she doesn’t like them and complains!) and she also reflected on her own behaviors.
In addition, I’ve provided some quality links to help you learn some concrete tips, suggestions, educational tools, online rules and some texting acronyms.
I have a favorite line in here – I’ll share with you at the end – priceless insight into the teen mind!

Guest Post by my favorite teen – Ali DeCesare

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I don’t think teens understand the danger they may be in when they release even the smallest bit of information on the Internet. That one time you put your first and last name in a post, or one picture of your house, with even just the town or state in the description, it could be the one time it would cost you. There are many Public Service Announcements on YouTube and television that support this idea and others to keep teens safe.

I know as a teen myself that I don’t really want my Mom snooping through my iPod or cell phone, and it gets me irritated when she does. However, after an incident on Instagram with me, I realize that without my mom’s snooping, things could’ve gotten out of hand really fast.

I’m sure everyone goes through the stage of always wanting to be right and completely in control of yourself, (or is that just me?) and when my parents go through personal conversations I have with my friends, it makes me want to be in the right and say that they can’t control me. Deep down I do get that it’s their job (that’s what they tell me) but sometimes I really just want to feel independent and not live in a video game while my parents have the controller.  So, sometimes I defy them and always get caught.

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I’ve made mistakes a few times with leaking a bit too much information, and thankfully my mom caught it before it was too late. Even though teens may always think that they are right and might know everything about everything, we don’t. Even though we might say differently, we definitely need the help of our parents to lead us as we learn to use our better judgement.

Our parents have been here for longer than us, and chances are, they know a lot more than we do. I like to be right, so this comes from the bottom of my heart when I say that trying to be right can be dangerous. By thinking that we are in charge and not under our parents’ protective wings, it gives us a sense of confidence and self-approval, which can be really positive, but if we think we know it all or can’t get hurt, if we ignore the dangers online, it could lead to bad stuff happening. teens on computer, boy and girl on laptop, internet safety quiz, parents responsibility to keep kids safe online, teens talking about online safety, teen speaks out about internet safety, snooping on teens, teens privacy,

I know it sounds silly, but one day, when we grow up and become parents, and raise children, and have our kids act like we do now, we’ll be able to use the tools that our parents teach us now to help lead our kids to safety on whatever technology there is at that time. (And you’ll probably get a phone call from us to say, “I’m so sorry. I get it now.”)

Another You Tube cyber bullying video Ali selected.

Some other great sites:

Great video made for teens: Internet Safety by Josh Shipp
Internet Safety Quiz
Netsmartz.org offers online safety information for parents, educators, law enforcement, teens, tweens and kids
Online Rules for Preteens (good for other ages, too!)
Cyber safety statistics
Internet Safety 101 is a terrific website for parents with lot’s of tools and information – here they list acronyms parents should know.

So did you figure out my favorite line?
“Our parents have been here for longer than us, and chances are, they know a lot more than we do.”
My husband and I got a good chuckle, along with Ali, about this glimpse (reminder) into a teen’s brain.
“And chances are” opens the possibility that teens DO know more than their 40-something parents!
I suppose in some arenas – they may! :-)

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19 Responses to Internet Safety: A Teen’s Point of View

  1. Great post by Ali! Thanks for sharing this great perspective, I’m sure those links will come in handy to me!

    • Leah DeCesare says:

      It was actually a very helpful process for ME to do some homework in finding and reading those links – and the others I put aside in favor of these. Lot’s of information out there to sift through – but really important to be aware of!

  2. @Jackiehennesse1 says:

    Such a refreshing post. This topic is so important for parents and teens. We need to be informed and educated. I love that it comes from the heart – & your perspective! Thanks for sharing! Great job, Ali!

    • Leah DeCesare says:

      From Ali: Thanks for reading the post. I think teens (and maybe parents, too) underestimate the power of the Internet. The more awareness we have, the better off we’ll be!

  3. Jennifer says:

    I will need to mark this for my kids to read when they are of age

    • Leah DeCesare says:

      I keep wondering what new things are coming at us down the pike … but no matter what, safety tips and Internet literacy will always be a crucial lesson!

  4. Bookmarked! It’s wonderful to hear a child know they made a mistake and learn from it instead of fight it. Great post- I will be sharing often!

    • Leah DeCesare says:

      Thanks, Chelley! She made us proud! I pray that these smaller lessons learned help thwart more serious mistakes down the road.

  5. Melissa_FillingOurBucket says:

    How awesome!! I love reading this and seeing a teen understand the dangers of being too public, and that we as parents simply have their best interests at heart! I’m totally saving this to show my son. In like, 14 years. 😉

    • Leah DeCesare says:

      :-) As another blogger, do you worry about putting your family’s/kids stuff out there? Sometimes I think I share more than she does and worry that I’m not being prudent enough!

    • Leah DeCesare says:

      It’s not a one time lesson – I’m under no illusions that she’s really “gotten it!” But hopefully she can learn through small mistakes and not and seriously dangerous ones!

  6. Karen Seager says:

    What a great post! I will have to share this with my girls.
    Maybe you should share a little, too, about how you were able to catch her mistakes.

    • Leah DeCesare says:

      Thanks, Karen. I just found them through periodic scanning of her iPod. She knows that she can’t have a passcode without us knowing it and that we’ll be randomly spot-checking her phone/iPod. A written diary – totally private – but an electronic that connects to the outside world – within our purvey for inspection!

      All gadgets need to be on the kitchen counter or in our bedroom for charging each night – so nothing is in their rooms overnight and that’s often when I take a moment to do a check. I’m not completely regular about it – there’s likely stuff I’ve missed, but I’m hopeful that with the 2 incidents referenced here, she’s learned a little to help her evaluate and make better judgements when she’s online.

      If she even slows down and stops to think a moment before posting something … hopefully, she’ll be able to make better decisions.

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