Composing Your Birth Wishes: aka Birth Plan

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Prenatally, it’s important for both Mom and Dad/partner (and anyone who will be attending the birth) to be involved in this exploratory journey. As you learn about and research possible interventions and hospital protocols, you can get an understanding of how you feel about things in a non-labor state of mind. You have the luxury of time to evaluate and prioritize your desires.

As the vision your birth comes into focus, you’ll find there are things you want to really insist upon and things you don’t care about either way. You’ll learn about your options in birth (medications, music, med students, artificial rupture of membranes, hep-lock, etc.) and the immediate postpartum period (delayed cord clamping, infant eye ointment, skin-to-skin, etc.)birth plans, birth options, birth preferences, natural birth in the hospital, planning for birth, labor plans, birth wishes, writing a birth plan,

You may find that you really care about freedom of movement and therefore want to have intermittent fetal monitoring or a portable telemetry unit instead of continuous monitoring; you may decide that you feel neutral about wearing your own clothes verses a johnny. To make these choices, you’ll need to grasp what they mean and you’ll need to know the policies of your chosen place of birth.

It’s all up to you as a consumer. Going through this process empowers you to own your birth. You are taking responsibility in this experience and giving it the due diligence it warrants.

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If you feel uncomfortable with your midwife/doctor’s answers or sense they won’t be able to accommodate the things you feel strongly about, it’s okay, and encouraged, to seek out a new provider who will honor and respect your wishes for your birth. Many women switch right up to the last minute. Trust and confidence in your provider matters in your birth, so listen to your gut and make a move if you feel ill-at-ease prenatally.

A few tips I always stress include:

  • Express birth preferences without being confrontational, don’t make demands.
  • One page – keep it short (it’s okay to put the newborn care plan on the back side)
  • Be realistic
  • Be flexible
  • Print it on bright/fluorescent colored paper
  • Copies for everyone! Review birth preferences with provider before the birth, bring copies to hospital to review with nurses
  • Avoid the phrase “unless medically necessary” – if it’s truly medically necessary, of course all bets are off and you’d want providers to do what they must, this is your wish list so there is no need to qualify statements with this phrase

Formatting your birth “plan” can take different forms, white space and bullets are helpful and you can organize it by parts of birth, (labor, pushing, postpartum, infant care.)You could also simply list preferences under “Things we would like” and “Things we hope to avoid.” You may even want to simply draw a picture of your ideal birth to help you envision this intimate life with hat sleeping, sleeping baby with hat, knit baby hat with pom poms, knit baby hat, sleeping baby, how to get a baby to sleep, soothing a baby, how to soothe a baby, newborn sleeping,

It is wise to begin your birth wishes document with a phrase that expresses your acknowledgement that birth can be unpredictable and your willingness to be flexible , and include the names of anyone who will be attending your birth with you (doula, friend or mom) and be sure that it meets with hospital rules so you have no surprises when you arrive in labor. It’s also wonderful to start with the reasons you chose your care provider, what is it you like about the practice?

Commit some energy and time to the process of writing your birth wishes. Visualize the birth you want. If you don’t know your options, you don’t have any.

*A birth plan template I like: but you can edit out “unless medically necessary” and any items that are standards of care at your facility and therefore not needed to list. (For example, episiotomy is less routinely performed now, perhaps you can omit this express request.) NOTE: This template times out and erases all you’ve selected, a solution is to cut and paste elsewhere while you’re researching and prioritizing, then go back in to the template and fill it in more quickly.

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7 Responses to Composing Your Birth Wishes: aka Birth Plan

  1. The key is to educate yourself on various possibilities and then remember YOU are the one in charge. Sadly I just went along with whatever my dr. said for the first couple of babies and now I’m stuck have c-sections – not an ideal way of having a baby.

    • Leah DeCesare says:

      Exactly – educating yourself and being the consumer. Questioning, researching, probing, evaluating values and preferences are necessary “homework” in pregnancy, as are selecting a provider and birthing place that you trust and most closely align with your vision for your birth.

      Do you know about gentle cesareans? You can advocate for yourself for things you’d like to have in your birth, too.

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