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You’re Invited – Book Launch Party

March 16, 2017

As a Mother’s Circle reader, I’m happy to extend an invitation to you to attend the book launch party celebrating my debut novel, FORKS, KNIVES, AND SPOONS.

Of course, you’ll need to get to Rhode Island, but if you’re nearby – click for your free ticket and please introduce yourself at the event!

Hope you can join me!

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Book Review: Wally Lamb – I’ll Take You There

December 14, 2016

ill-take-you-there-coverAbout I’ll Take You There
by Wally Lamb

Hardcover: 272 pages
Publisher: Harper; First Printing edition (November 22, 2016)

In this radiant homage to the resiliency, strength, and power of women, Wally Lamb author of numerous New York Times bestselling novels including She’s Come Undone, I Know This Much is True, and We Are Water weaves an evocative, deeply affecting tapestry of one Baby Boomer’s life and the trio of unforgettable women who have changed it.

I’ll Take You There centers on Felix, a film scholar who runs a Monday night movie club in what was once a vaudeville theater. One evening, while setting up a film in the projectionist booth, he’s confronted by the ghost of Lois Weber, a trailblazing motion picture director from Hollywood’s silent film era. Lois invites Felix to revisit and in some cases relive scenes from his past as they are projected onto the cinema’s big screen.

In these magical movies, the medium of film becomes the lens for Felix to reflect on the women who profoundly impacted his life. There’s his daughter Aliza, a Gen Y writer for New York Magazine who is trying to align her post-modern feminist beliefs with her lofty career ambitions; his sister, Frances, with whom he once shared a complicated bond of kindness and cruelty; and Verna, a fiery would-be contender for the 1951 Miss Rheingold competition, a beauty contest sponsored by a Brooklyn-based beer manufacturer that became a marketing phenomenon for two decades. At first unnerved by these ethereal apparitions, Felix comes to look forward to his encounters with Lois, who is later joined by the spirits of other celluloid muses.

Against the backdrop of a kaleidoscopic convergence of politics and pop culture, family secrets, and Hollywood iconography, Felix gains an enlightened understanding of the pressures and trials of the women closest to him, and of the feminine ideals and feminist realities that all women, of every era, must face.

My review

I have loved Wally Lamb’s work for years and had the joy of meeting him this past October at Reading With Robin’s Evening With Authors. He is a gracious, fun, and kind man; it was wonderful to meet the man behind the words.

I’ll Take You There visits many locals that I know from “real life” and that drew my attention right away, it’s always fun to read about the places we know. My parents attend plays at the Garde Theatre in New London, Connecticut, my home state. Incidentally, today marks the anniversary of the Sandy Hook shootings, I grew up in Newtown and so much of who I am and what I love is wrapped up and tied into Newtown. My prayers and love are with the families who lost children and loved ones that horrible December 14th, and my prayers and love are with all those who have their hearts still in Newtown in any way.

So that side-track isn’t actually unlike Felix, Lamb’s protagonist who has a voice that is friendly and conversational, who is at times distracted into other thoughts and stories – or by ghosts. I’m not a big fan of the supernatural so this was harder for me to comfortably accept as a reader, though eventually it didn’t jar me so much. It was a creative tool to give us backstory and depth into his family relationships, to interact with the past in a meaningful way and allow us to live historical scenes with the characters.

Forks, Knives, and Spoons Cover

September 14, 2016

In case you missed last night’s live cover reveal for Forks, Knives, and Spoons, here it is.

You can watch the reveal below the Forks, Knives, and Spoons cover below or on Reading With Robin on Facebook. Thank you to my dear friend, Robin, for hosting me on her page, we had fun together as we always do!

I’m so excited about this next step on my journey to publishing my first novel – a lifetime dream. Thanks for coming along with me. And it’s even available for pre-order now on Amazon – it’s feeling very real!

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Cover Reveal Tonight – Forks, Knives, and Spoons

September 13, 2016

Join me tonight on Reading With Robin’s Facebook page for a Facebook Live cover reveal of my new novel coming out in April – Forks, Knives, and Spoons. If you’re not on Facebook (there are a few of you out there I hear!) You can subscribe to my newsletter on leahdecesare.com or check back on MotherCircle.net where I’ll share it.

Robin and I will chat a bit and you’ll be among the first to see the cover – which I LOVE and hope you will too.

Thanks for being a Mother’s Circle reader and hope to see you on FB Live TONIGHT.
7:00 pm EST

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Carry On Book Review

August 22, 2016

Carry On Book Review | MothersCircle.netDear Mother’s Circle Readers,

Here’s a book you’ve got to read: Carry On by Lisa Fenn. I am trying hard not to be a book review site, but I’ve been reading like crazy (I’m kicking butt in my Goodreads Challenge) and the deeper I get into this being-an-author thing, the more I’m connecting with other writers and find myself committing – and volunteering – to do reviews.

As a parent, you’ll be grateful for this book review. I devoured Carry On and found myself underlining and marking passages with hearts, stars, smiley faces and even some tear drops. I loved this book and its powerful story; I’d recommend it as a family read or an independent read for older kids and teens. There are so many things to discuss, so many life lessons and conversation starters.

Carry On tells the story of how an ESPN journalist featured two wrestlers, each with their own disability, one blind and one without legs, and found herself becoming entwined in their lives. Eventually Fenn became their mentor, their family, and their Guardian Angel as Dartanyon wrote on his emergency contact form describing her “Relationship to Student.”

I’m almost not sure how to begin, what to share with you about this inspiring, heart-wrenching, hopeful story. It made me reflect on so much in life, in our society, and on our current journey within the foster care system. I was moved by the challenges these boys faced, by their growth and insights, like this quote from Leroy.

History is like gravity. It can pull you down. We wanted to succeed, but we needed someone to show us how – someone who believed our potential was more important than our past.
– Leroy

Carry On is the evidence that mentoring works, that caring about another person – really investing in someone – makes a difference. I love this video from Josh Shipp and this story made me think of his video: Every kid is one caring adult away from success. For Leroy and Dartanyon, Lisa Fenn became that one caring adult.

Questions bubbled and and I pondered the effects of poverty, how long a person carries trauma, the power of forgiveness and open-mindedness and many other issues. A good book is certainly one that prods thought and pushes us to see the world in new ways.

Online Honesty

August 8, 2016

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In Twenty Years Book Review

July 1, 2016

In Twenty Years book review | MothersCircle.netI had the privilege of reading Allison Winn Scotch’s new book, In Twenty Years, before today’s publication date. I have loved Allison’s other books including, The Theory of Opposites, so I dove into In Twenty Years eagerly and it didn’t disappoint.

The story is about six close friends who live together in college (shout out to Penn, my brother’s alma mater). Their “connector” (don’t we all have friends who keep us linked and in touch?) has them all write a letter to their older selves, twenty years from senior year. Now, as those of us in our 40s know, when you’re in your twenties, the forties seem far off and kinda old, but boy it comes upon us quickly.

The book begins with their letters, which we don’t get to read until the characters reread them in about twenty years.

We were twenty-one. We were allowed to believe impossible things.

In Twenty Years explores the idea of what happens during the years in which we become adults: What happens to friendships, our ideals, our confidence, our goals and aspirations? Can we change and if so, do we change or are we the same really? What secrets do we keep from one another and from ourselves?

We All Need a Break

June 7, 2016

we all need a breakYup – we all need a break, and I’ve taken one. A long one. I’ve been on a blogging hiatus as I’ve been working on signing with SparkPress for my debut novel which will be out Spring 2017. I’ve been working with my publisher, editor, lawyer, and publicists to get everything moving forward.

It’s a dream come true for me and you’ll certainly be hearing more about my novel in the coming months. I can’t wait for my cover reveal! You’ll be the first to see it here.

What else has been going on during my blogging break?

 

I was offline on our amazing trip to Italy to celebrate my parents’ upcoming DuoLingo app, learning italian,50th Anniversary! WOO HOO, Mom and Dad! Our villa in Arezzo was a piece of heaven and spending nine days with my family was a true blessing.

I had been very serious about trying to learn some Italian before going and had a 134 day streak going on DuoLingo. Do any of you use that app? Now I think I’ll switch to Spanish as that will likely be more useful going forward.

Thanks to our supportive village here in Rhode Island, while we were traipsing around Tuscany and Rome, our children had as much fun as we did (almost) while living with their friends for a week. Grazie Mille – you know who you are.

 

 

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There’s another big thing going on which is occupying a lot of our time and I’ll be happy to share more asLTYM cast member Providence 2016 #LTYM Listen to Your Mother Show | MothersCircle.net things progress. You’ll also hear more about it when I’m able to post my video (and transcript) of my Listen to Your Mother piece. Those should be ready to post in July for all 41 participating cities across the country.

During my time away from blogging, I

Enter to Win – Naked Parenting Audio Book

April 11, 2016

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The original Naked Parenting: 7 Keys to Raising Kids With Confidence is now available on Audible and Amazon. Soon to also be available on iTunes.

I love audio books and am often simultaneously reading a book at home and a book on tape in my car. Love it!

Enter to win your Naked Parenting audio book by sharing this blog post then providing the link to your share in the comments here.

All shares done by Wednesday, April 13, 10:00 pm will be entered to win one of the five Audible downloads. I will contact winners through their email linked privately to your comment post.

Giving Kids Our Full Attention

April 1, 2016

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Don’t Let My Baby Do Rodeo – Book Review

March 17, 2016

Don't Let My Baby Do Rodeo Reveiw | MothersCircle.netA story of immigrants and adoption, a mother’s journey and self-exploration, Don’t Let My Baby Do Rodeo by Boris Fishman, was a book filled with gorgeous, rich sentences, and the requirement of some close reading.

The conflict between superstitions and traditions and the immersion into another culture, even decades later, is powerful, as are the discoveries of what lies within relationships. Familial bonds, marital and in-law relationships and the dissection of what it really means to be a mother, a parent, a family.

Fear and loneliness, blame and self doubt, lies and truths all tangle together throughout Maya’s tortured journey.

Fishman crafts sentences that forced me to underline and reread them to savor the just-right combinations of words. Some examples:

“Alex rose, the sofa giving him up with a sigh,”

“‘For my father, there’s no gift without a con wrapped around it. You divide what he says by half and subtract, and you start getting closer. He speaks in Fahrenheit, but the truth is closer to Celsius.'”

“…the value of pragmatic deceit…”

“The night shift regularly put him in acquaintance with the glitches and flaws of human design.”

“…every obsession withers if you just hold down the obsessive…”

“…when he agreed to unshell himself, the world loved him.”

Children Must Know They Are Loved

February 19, 2016

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No Time to Read? Why I Love Audio Books

January 27, 2016

No Time to Read? Why I Love Audio Books | MothersCircle.netI’ve always loved reading. I remember trips to the library and the excitement of my arms stacked with books. I still love that feeling of deciding what book I’m going to read next. But as a mom, a professional, a volunteer and as life gets busier and busier, it can be hard to find time to read.

Belonging to two books clubs (shout out to my Panera book club friends and Reading Between the Wines pals) gives me the external deadlines that let me “give myself permission” to sit and read. I also love book clubs because I’ve always valued the variety of selections when I’m not the only one choosing what I read. (That’s also why I’ve loved our Mother Daughter Book Clubs.)

Since I love it, I make time to read but I also love audio books so I can read even more. I still visit the library and I still call them affectionately, “books on tape.” Old or old-fashioned? You decide.

Naked Parenting Book Trailer

December 3, 2015

Thank you to my daughter, Ali, and her tech savvy for creating this Naked Parenting book trailer for the new Naked Parenting: Guiding Kids in a Digital World, available now.

To read more about what the second in the Naked Parenting series is all about, click here.

Thank you for making the original Naked Parenting #1 on Amazon all day on CyberMonday! Rankings change hourly and I was thrilled to see the book downloads skyrocket.

Click here for the original Naked Parenting: 7 Keys to Raising Kids With Confidence.

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Naked Parenting: Guiding Kids in a Digital World

December 1, 2015

Naked Parenting: Guiding Kids in a Digital World | MothersCircle.netIntroducing the newest in the Naked Parenting series – Naked Parenting: Guiding Kids in a Digital World.

From social media, apps, video games, texting, cyberbullying, privacy, and identity theft, guiding kids in a digital world can be overwhelming. Parents need concrete strategies to manage technology in our homes in ways that fit our family values and culture.

Naked Parenting is parenting stripped down to the bare basics focusing on seven keys to raising kids who are self-sufficient, confident, respectful, and resilient. The seven keys – love, honesty, communication, responsibility, discipline, mistakes, and gratitude – guide the discussion in this book on technology.

Naked Parenting approaches parenting in an honest, direct, and realistic way. Guiding children with love, nurturing their strengths and self image, and instilling personal responsibility are at the heart of Naked Parenting.

It’s hard, if not impossible, for parents to keep up with the pace of technology – forget juggling work, kids, commitments, volunteer jobs, and laundry. The good news is you don’t need to be literate in every new thing that crops up. However, you do need an awareness and a parenting framework that adapts to whatever comes next.

We need ways to manage technology in our homes in a big picture, broad way that will teach our children good digital citizenship, online responsibility, self-regulation, and how to benefit from technologies while staying safe.

It’s a huge and important job. So how do we tackle all of that?

Naked Parenting: Guiding Kids in a Digital World gives usable tips applicable broadly to the digital world from a parenting perspective instead of from a techie viewpoint. While some specifics are used in examples and stories throughout the book, this is not meant to teach you any details about any currently popular Internet or mobile innovation. With the rapid changes in technologies, I want to give you tools that transcend specific platforms, devices, video games, or the app of the moment.

Everything You Wanted to Know About Affirmations *

November 7, 2015

Everything You Wanted to Know About Affirmations | MothersCircle.net*But Were Afraid to Ask

Thank you to author and artist, Susan Singer, for this guest post on the power and use of affirmations.
Try them for birth, for your health, your mental state and well-being, and even for goal-setting and reaching your dreams.
Here, Susan walks us through the whys and how-tos of using affirmations.  

What is an affirmation?

An affirmation is a positive statement of belief. Ex:  I am happy and prosperous.

When did affirmations start?

Affirmations have been around for as long as people could speak – we all know people with sunny dispositions who tend to look on the bright side of life – but in 1952, affirmations became mainstream when Norman Vincent Peale published The Power of Positive Thinking.  It stayed on the New York Times bestseller list for 186 consecutive weeks and has since sold around five million copies.  This small book introduced affirmations and the power of thinking positively to millions of avid readers who were ready for a shift in their thinking.

In 1978, Louise Hay wrote Heal Your Body which began as a small pamphlet containing a list of different bodily ailments and their probable metaphysical causes. Her premise is that the way we think actually helps cause our physical ailments, and that if we examine those beliefs and work with affirmations to change them, we can heal ourselves.  Her pamphlet was later enlarged and extended into her book You Can Heal Your Life, published in 1984 and has since sold over 35 million copies.

One of my favorites of her affirmations is about urinary tract infections about which, she says:
Probable cause: Anxiety. Holding on to old ideas. Fear of letting go. Being pissed off.
New thought pattern: I comfortably and easily release the old and welcome the new in my life. I am safe.

What can affirmations do for me?

Invitation to Book Clubs

June 15, 2015

An Invitation to Book Clubs | MothersCircle.netAs I work on the second in the Naked Parenting series, I have an invitation to book clubs out there!

If your book club chooses to read Naked Parenting: 7 Keys to Raising Kids With Confidence, I would love to join you for your discussion either in person locally or via a Skype call.

So if you’re interested, share this invitation to book clubs with your group and let me know. I love to talk with moms, parents, and families about parenting issues, you can even weigh in on what topics you’d like me to cover in upcoming Naked Parenting books.

Discussing things we face in this amazing and challenging job as parents can be encouraging, helpful, and can offer new ideas and tools to try in our own homes.

I hope you’ll consider my invitation and get in touch with me, either in the comments below or contact me here.

Vote on the Next Naked Parenting Book

March 1, 2015

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I need you to vote on the next Naked Parenting book topic.

Now that I’m in a good place with my first novel and querying agents (He’s Such a Fork), I’m ready to start working on a second Naked Parenting book.

I have outlined three topics, please leave a comment and let me know which you’d like to read about next.

Reading With Robin is Back!

January 16, 2015

RWRlogo_finalMy dear friend, Robin Kall, will be back on the air today with her Reading With Robin program after a two year hiatus. Lifetime lover of books, radio host, and entrepreneur, Robin works tirelessly to advocate for all things literary.

Affectionately referred to as the Fairy Bookmother, Robin connects writers to readers, hosts beloved authors events, and is never without a book. When we go out, I have to bring a notebook to record the names of authors I need to read and all the fun ideas we brainstorm together.

Please tune in today and every Friday afternoonReading with Robin, Robin Kall, RI Robin, book lovers, for the return of Reading With Robin, 4-5:00 pm eastern. You can also listen to AM790 WPRV on the i Heart Radio app. On today’s show, I’ll be calling in to talk about Naked Parenting and my book signing next week on January 22nd at Symposium Books in East Greenwich, RI.

She’ll be sharing her favorite authors, telling stories and having a great on-air time. Today’s show is going to be a free-for-all so we’ll see what happens. After all, it’s LIVE!

Break a Binding, Robin!

More Favorite Books For Book Clubs

January 14, 2015

More favorite books for book clubs | MothersCircle.netLast summer, I listed some of my favorite books for book clubs, after another year of reading, here are some more favorite books. At the end of this post, take a peek at some of the author’s I’ve met – and I absolutely recommend their books, too! Loved Ice Cream Queen of Orchard Street, The Baker’s Daughter, Those Who Save Us, The Beauty of Humanity Movement and others by the authors in the photos! ENJOY!

My newest Favorite Books for Book Clubs:

Black Friday Weekend Sale on Naked Parenting

November 28, 2014

It thrills me to hear when people love Naked Parenting enough to buy it as a gift for other parents, for their children, grandchildren, or friends. For a limited time, get your paperback copy for 50% off the regular price.

I love finding the perfect gift for someone and all of the preparations of the Christmas season. Enjoy your time getting ready and whether at home in your PJs or out in the crowds, find ways to feel grateful and keep your focus on what is important to you in life.

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A Child Who Knows She is Loved

November 20, 2014

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Book Journeys

November 13, 2014

BOOKJOURNEYSI’m excited to be speaking with Dr. Angela Lauria of The Author Incubator this afternoon on her Blog Talk Radio show, Book Journeys. Click this link to listen live at 3:00 pm EST today or for listening in after.

Angela is the creator of the D.I.F.F.E.R.E.N.C.E. process for writing your book and she has been helping authors birth their books for over 20 years. You know I love the birthing analogy as a doula!

Almost two years ago I worked with Angela on my novel (which, after many rewrites, going through an editor, and more rewrites, is currently out with beta readers for feedback! YAY!) She helped keep me accountable and taught me so much about working with editors, book marketing and the world of publishing. I loved our sessions and I was able to talk through plot Blog Talk Radio, Book Journeys, Angela Lauria, help writing a bookpoints and structure.

Though we worked together on my novel, The Fork Book (a working title), today, we’re talking about Naked Parenting. For anyone interested in writing and/or publishing, Angela is a tremendous resource.

If you’re interested in a signed copy, send me a note here and I’ll ship you out one for your or for a gift.

Listen in here at 3:00 pm EST today. See you on Book Journeys!

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Parents Set the Tone for the Family

November 5, 2014

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You are the Single Greatest Influence

October 16, 2014

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We Shouldn’t Engineer Childhood

September 26, 2014

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Delight in the Journey

September 15, 2014

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Giving Kids Our Undivided Attention

August 28, 2014

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Naked Parenting Offers Tools for the Journey

August 25, 2014

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If you’re an East Greenwich, Rhode Islander, you’ve got to subscribe to EGNews to be in the know!

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Naked Parenting Webinar Available

August 21, 2014

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I had a great time doing the webinar and the feedback was rewarding, attendees polled felt that they had learned something that they could apply to parenting right away.

Some quotes from reviews of Naked Parenting on Amazon:

The content is straightforward and to the point – with highly organized “take-away” messages that stick with you throughout the day … helpful techniques that every parent should have in their toolbox!

Practical, reasoned and full of real-world experience.

Many parenting books on the market focus on strategies starting with children’s behavior, Naked Parenting starts with parents-which is often overlooked in other parenting books. Leah provides thoughtful and wise suggestions for parents to consider in many different situations and scenarios of parenting.

This book reads like a good friend kindly whispering in your ear the things you need to hear about parenting.

Such a wonderful read! Leah’s quick strategies started helping me with my 2 year old almost immediately…

It’s an easy read with tons of valuable information!

I am encouraged as a mom from your words.

Naked Parenting is eye-opening. Chock-full of priceless advice for parents with children of all ages.

I’m grateful for these and other wonderful reviews. I hope you, too, enjoy Naked Parenting: 7 Keys to Raising Kids with Confidence. I hope you enjoy it enough to share it and recommend it, too. Get it now while it’s on sale!

Click here to listen to the Naked Parenting Webinar.

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Naked Parenting On Sale This Week

August 18, 2014

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Thank you to my loyal Mother’s Circle readers, I promise to get you some posts that aren’t about Naked Parenting as soon as this week’s promotion is over!

Thanks for your support and for the comments and emails you’ve sent, for the tweets and social media sharing you’ve done – it means so much and I am so grateful!

Please keep sharing your feedback on Naked Parenting – I love hearing from you! Join me this Tuesday for a webinar on Naked Parenting.

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Naked Parenting Book Trailer

July 10, 2014

Yesterday I posted about my new book – Naked Parenting: 7 Keys to Raising Kids with Confidence. It’s now available on Amazon.

Here is the Naked Parenting book trailer, come on – Get Naked!

 

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Naked Parenting – New Parenting Book from Mother’s Circle

July 9, 2014

Naked Parenting book, image Naked Parenting, raising kids with confidence, honest parenting, tips for being confident parent, parent book for teens, parent book for tweens, parenting book for all ages, I’m proud and excited to announce the publication of Naked Parenting: 7 Keys to Raising Kids with Confidence.

Over the thirteen years working with new parents and helping families transition to parenthood, I’ve received many calls and emails from clients, from the immediate postpartum period to years later, asking parenting questions. Many clients and blog readers have asked or suggested I write a book – so here it is!

Naked Parenting is parenting stripped down to the bare basics focusing on seven keys to raising kids who are self-sufficient, confident, respectful, and resilient. Nudity not required.

Naked Parenting describes my parenting principles and philosophies and allows readers to apply these ideas to their own style of parenting using their own household rules and values. I share specific tips, examples and suggestions that families can begin using right away.

It’s a quick read that will leave you ready to try new techniques in your family. One early reader was heading on vacation after finishing Naked Parenting and told me she was going start the next day by focusing on one aspect she’d learned in the book that really resonated with her. Another early reader felt like she was sitting talking with me over a cup of tea as she read it – what a compliment – and I hope you feel that way, too. Pour yourself some iced tea and join me!

I’d love to hear how Naked Parenting impacts your family – use the contact form or share your thoughts in the comments below. As a Mother’s Circle reader, you already know a lot about my writing style and parenting ideologies, and I hope you will enjoy Naked Parenting. Click here to see Naked Parenting on Amazon.

Thank you for your readership and your support!

I’m grateful for the advance praise for Naked Parenting

8 Parenting Lessons from Frozen

June 17, 2014

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So back to the parenting lessons from Frozen …

How many times have you seen Frozen in your family? Three? Five? Eight? Have you hit a dozen times? How many times have you sung/heard/hummed “Let it Go”? That’s got to be nearing the hundred mark at least! Hasn’t “Let it go” become the new theme song and theme phrase for everything? Don’t stress – let it go – then your head goes right into the lyrics.

Frozen is one of my favorite movies, not just my favorite Disney movie, but I think I have to add it to my list of all favorite movies. And, having seen it more times than I’d like to admit, I can’t help but see some great parenting lessons from Frozen.

1. Accept your children for who they are – and nurture it.

This one hits you right in the face at the start of Frozen. Poor Elsa wasn’t accepted unconditionally, sure, her parents, the rulers of Arendelle, thought they were doing the right thing, but they squelched her essence, even made her ashamed and embarrassed by who she was. Her parents didn’t let her be herself, instead she had to hide her true self.

I cringe to admit it, but there are times we do this as parents, sometimes in small ways that are almost hidden. The key is to recognize it and take a different action course. Do you want your book bug to be more athletic? Do you want your daughter to play field hockey like you did? Do you encourage your art-loving son to join the soccer team? Do you expect A’s from your B student?

Encouraging them to fulfill their potential and offering opportunities for diverse experiences are wonderful but there can be a fine line, can’t there?

In Naked Parenting, Naked Love is the first key – 100% full, generous, crazy-love for our kids and making sure they know it to their core, without a question. Wholly accepting them for who they are, helping them shine in their strengths and learn from and grow from their weaknesses, that’s our job as parents. I think the Frozen trolls are a wonderful example of unconditional love and acceptance.

2. Family first and love conquers all.

Tagging onto the first lesson, sisterly love and bonds are a main Frozen theme. Didn’t you think for awhile that the “only an act of true love can save her” was a kiss from Kristoff? I let the screenwriters take me right along that thinking for most of the film – but then the ultimate lesson was that it was a sister’s love that saved her, not a romantic love.

Sexting at School

June 10, 2014

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I love Benjamin’s advice in Sexting at School which is so important to remember: “She needs you to be confident in your role. … Jessica loves you, and she knows that you love her. This is universal: the teenager wants desperately to have her independence, and she is terrified of it. Jessica is not aware of the fact that she is conflicted about this. She’s just a kid. As much as she pushes you away, she wants you to be strong, to love her.”

This is a great, quick read written for parent’s of teen daughters. Download the article-length ebook for free.

SEXTING AT SCHOOL by Benjamin Dancer

I’m a high school counselor, which means I work with parents every day who could use a little grace in their lives. Because I’ve made a career out of my work with adolescents, I see as a matter of course what a parent might be seeing for the first time. This includes a long list of unfortunate life events.

As a parent, I have a lot of empathy for other parents. It’s not easy, especially when you’re going through something for the first time. My life, on the other hand, is a little bit like Groundhog Day. In a sense, I’ve never left high school. Every school year I see the same things. Different kids, but the same behavior: alcohol, drugs, tobacco, bullying, kids running away from home, pregnancy and something newer: sexting.

Nurturing Beginnings by Debra Pascali-Bonaro

April 22, 2014

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Debra Pascali-Bonaro was first my doula trainer, then my mentor, then my friend.

We met in 2007 in New York City at a doula training, as the workshop progressed, I felt achier and sicker and on the last day, I listened to Debra lying down with my eyes closed. (It turned out I had Lyme Disease).

Then I invited Debra to teach several doula trainings I hosted and we attended conferences together. We had pajama talks, chats over glasses of wine and on long walks. We talked about issues monumental and trivial, and everything in between. We shared our families and pondered world problems with our toes in the sand and at restaurants over meals.

So when Debra asked me to be a part of this project, I jumped at the chance. I am proud to have helped to edit, contribute and update this version of Nurturing Beginnings. I am honored to be a co-author beside Debra Pascali-Bonaro.

The Fork Book is coming …

March 2, 2014

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Have you noticed a slowing in frequency of my posts lately? I finished the first draft of my first novel in December last year and since then, I’ve been immersed in my first rewrite of The Fork Book. I write between laundry, shuttling kids, shoveling snow, planning a fundraiser, cooking, shoveling snow, reading some great books (just finished The Husband’s Secret by Liane Moriarty – a terrific read!), vacuuming and, yup, more shoveling.

It’s amazing to me to be able to say, “I have a manuscript for my first novel.” Ever since I was little, I have wanted to be a writer. Blogging got me back into regular writing, but even back then, I meant writing books, stories, fiction! I recently found a picture from when I was eight years old, the heading question was: “What do you want to be when you grow up?” and I drew myself on a way-too-neat desk, writing (with a pencil!). I’ve prioritized my life to follow that life-long dream and I’m so close, I am giddy!

I want to tell you, my loyal readers, first about this new venture. I don’t know yet, about a time line for when the book will be available, it’s still a ways off, but I’ve got an editor and I’m rewriting like crazy!

How Childhood Sexual Abuse Affects Pregnancy and Birth

January 21, 2014

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The book When Survivors Give Birth is directed at survivors, their families, doctors, midwives, nurses, medical staff and other birth professionals like childbirth educators and doulas, to educate on how childhood sexual abuse affects pregnancy and birth.

Survivors can benefit from the information throughout, but particularly with Chapter 9, called “Self-Help Methods to Prevent and Manage Distress During Childbirth.” The chapter opens with this: “Anxiety, fright, panic, uncertainty, helplessness, inability to act, and distrust can catch the survivor unaware and throw her into distress and despair. Other people perceive her reactions as inappropriate and exaggerated. This chapter offers a variety of self-help techniques to recognize and allay these automatic reactions, or to prevent them in the first place.”

Whether or not a mom discloses any prior abuse to providers, doulas, midwives or anyone in her birthing circle, birth professionals must be prepared and sensitive to the challenges survivors face in pregnancy and birth. Click here for a video of Penny talking about When Survivors Give Birth.

Estimates are that between one in four and one in three women have a history of childhood sexual abuse. This number is likely higher as childhood sexual assault is under reported.

Great Books For Kids

November 20, 2013

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Here are some great books for kids that I want to share with you just in time for holiday giving. Full disclosure: I received complimentary review copies of these books.

 

Fife’s Lessons: The Tao of Cool

By Rob DegnanIllustrated by Jason Robert LeClair
FifesLessons.com

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Fife struggles with issues of fitting in, acceptance and ultimately learns the greatest lesson in kindness. The story guides readers to learn these lessons along with Fife, and some unspoken ones, too. More subtle lessons presented are how we never know what’s really going on in another person’s heart and head and how we all have strengths and weaknesses.

Fife learns that working together with someone who excels in different ways than she does can bring success and that a friendship can grow when one opens their mind and heart to another person. Fife’s Lessons are just as important for adults as they are for kiddos! Welcome Fife and her friends into your home.

How to Support your Child Through Divorce

September 25, 2013

Guest post by Fiona McGlynn

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Organizing Kid’s Artwork

September 19, 2013

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Many years ago, before I was in the digital mode for photography, and pre-smart phones, I read about an idea that stuck with me: take pictures of your children’s artwork and then assemble a book of the pictures. I’ve only done this for the last four school years, but with everything electronic now, it’s a task that’s quite easy, with a little organization. (So why haven’t I started last school year’s book yet?)

When I do start it (writing this is motivating me to get to it) I use and really like Shutterfly. (You can click the link on the sidebar to go directly to Shutterfly). I am comfortable with their tools and products, they offer frequent discounts on photo books and their customer service has been exceptionally responsive when I’ve had any questions. There are other options out there (iPhoto, Tiny Prints, Snapfish, Mixbook, Lulu) for you to peruse.

When a kiddo comes home with a Groundhog Day hat, I put it on their head and take a picture, then throw away the hat. When the paints come out and the creativity flows into stacks of masterpieces, I snap a shot of each one, and toss them.mermaid painting, mermaid art, drawing mermaids, kids art tips, art books, photo books for artwork, ariel painting, how to organize kids art

Favorite Books For Book Clubs

July 12, 2013

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Right now, I’m in four book clubs, two women’s groups and two mother-daughter book clubs, one with each of my girls. Shout out to my book clubs: the Panera Book Club (we close our local Panera once a month as we’re deep in chatter) and Reading Between the Wines.

Squeezing in the time to read can be difficult with our busy schedules but it’s something I value and love, so I make the time. The deadlines of book clubs are the perfect thing to keep me going and to compel me to do something I care about.

Here is a list of some of my most favorite books in no particular order. Well, they may in fact be in the order of what I’ve read most recently first since that’s how my memory seems to fare best. Images and links to all of my book recommendations are at the end of this post.

All of these are terrific for book club reads and rich discussion. Please, take a moment to share some of your favorite books in the comments – perhaps you agree or disagree with some on my list!

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