6 Sleep Tips for Tweens and Teens

This week is the National Sleep Foundation’s Sleep Awareness Week to provide education and to promote the importance of sleep. I have dedicated my posts this week to sleep in babies through teens. I have attended sleep workshops, panel discussions, I’ve read stacks of books on the topic and I regularly consult with families to identify strategies to improve sleep for the whole family so here are six sleep tips for tweens and teens.


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Teens and tweens are often not getting the recommended 9.25 hours of sleep they need.  Inadequate sleep effects cognitive functioning, academic achievement, family sanity, physical and emotional health and can result in more accidents in teens who drive.

Making sleep a priority for teens is essential to their current health and well-being as well as their ongoing physical and emotional health. Studies show links to poor sleep or difficulty sleeping in younger years to increased anxiety and depression years later.

Learning, practicing and experiencing healthy sleep is a life skill and educating our tweens and teens is a gift.

6 Sleep Tips for Tweens and Teens

Have a regular bed time and bedtime routine

Since teens require 9.25 hours of sleep per night, figure out their ideal bedtime by backing into it based on the time they need to get up in the mornings. Then help them ease into it with a calming wind-down routine.

teen yawning, not getting enough sleep, teens and sleep problems, falling asleep at school, yawning in class, can't stay awake, boy yawning, Having a consistent bedtime routine is good advice from babies through all the stages of life. Some of the main components of a childhood bedtime routine can adapt and grow with kids. The kernels can remain a soothing constant, for example, a hot bedtime bath becomes a hot bedtime shower (helpful for time management in morning, too). Listening to quiet music, reading a book or writing in a journal are elements that a parent can suggest to guide a teen as they develop a soothing nighttime routine. A white noise machine can work for teens, too.

Circadian rhythms are influenced by habit. We need to reset our circadian rhythms each day with external cues and predictable schedules.

Keep bedtime and wake-up times the same on weekends

This is a miserable recommendation for teens! I know, I get it, I hate to say it, but it’s solid advice. Teens really aren’t “catching up” on sleep, instead they’re making it harder on themselves for the upcoming week by staying up later and sleeping until noon on weekends or snow days.

In adolescence, sleep drive, or feeling the need to sleep, shifts later and later. Meaning that they feel more wakeful and less able to fall asleep until later hours. This is called a sleep phase delay and it coincides with greater demands on teen’s time like homework loads, extracurricular activities, and earlier school starting times limiting their sleep.

Teen’s circadian rhythm already has a biological phase delay which is made worse by staying up even later on weekends then sleeping in. It essentially creates a double-whammy for teens.

I get it, I like to sleep a little later, too. So here’s the compromise, there is room for infrequent exceptions for special occasions but it’s best to let teens shift their schedule only about one hour on weekends. If bedtime is normally 9:00 pm (a good bedtime for a teen who wakes up at 6:00 am), then have weekend bedtime be 10:00 pm and she can sleep until about 7:00 am. Researcher Stephanie Crowley suggests a 10 – 90 minute afternoon nap on weekends to give teens more sleep without reducing sleep drive.

Turn off anything with lights a half hour before bed

Here’s another recommendation teens will hate and resist. As with babies and toddlers, parents often have sleep struggles with their kids that require hard choices and confident parenting. There are many things that are best for our kids even when they’re not popular or pleasant to execute.

Sleep rhythms are affected by light. It’s great for a teen to wake up and open curtains and mosey around with exposure to daylight. It helps them reset their clocks and bright morning light is recommended to help with sleeping in class, sleepy girl in school, dozing in class, how to stay awake in class, sleeping in school, girl rubbing eyes, tired all the timecircadian phases. The light from TV, computer screens and iAnythings, works the same way in the teen (or adult) brain adding to their alertness and their inability to fall asleep.  A good guideline is to to cut out screen time at least a half hour before bed.

It’s advisable to remove all of these gadgets from a teens bedroom to help manage any limitations you instate.

Use good sleep hygiene

Sleep hygiene means the things we do to promote sleep. Because their sleep phase delay makes them feel awake later, teens need some tools to help them feel sleepy at bedtime.

Sleep hygiene recommendations include:

  • Limit total daily caffeine intake and avoid anything caffeinated within five hours of bedtime
  • Get physical! Exercise, especially in the after school hours, helps sleep, but within a few hours of bedtime can be alerting.
  • Have a light carbohydrate snack at bedtime (such as pretzels, cereal, crackers or bread) which can make a teen feel sleepy, and a hungry belly can prevent falling off to sleep. While it’s true that warm milk and chamomile tea help induce sleepiness, more than eight ounces of liquids within four hours of bedtime can disrupt sleep. A bedtime snack can be beneficial, while a heavy meal can be counterproductive.
  • A hot shower before bed can cause drowsiness because we feel sleepy as our body temperature drops.
  • Keep a teen’s bedroom quiet, dark and a comfortable.
  • Keep the temperature cool but not cold overnight, while the cooling body feels sleepy, a rising temperature causes wakefulness. (Hmmm, maybe there’s a new way to wake your tween up – turn up the heat!)

Learn relaxation techniques

As discussed throughout this article, teens can have trouble falling asleep at an hour that makes sense for their biological needs for sleep.

Offer your teen options and tools for learning to relax and wind down in preparation for sleep. Deep abdominal or yogic breathing, progressive relaxation, guided visualizationsaromatherapy, and meditation are some possibilities. These are life skills that will benefit them throughout their lives.

Parents, set an example

Mom, Dad, what are your bedtime habits and routines? Do you value sleep for yourself and your household? Use the healthy sleep tips here and be the role models, make sleep a priority in your family. It will benefit everyone and increase the harmony.

Bonus tip! After some feedback, I’ve added this tip – consider it #6A:

Advocate for later school start times

In addition to these tools to guide and help your teen fight biology and get the sleep he requires, you can work to advocate for later middle school/high school start times in your district. Read here for school start time research and initiatives to inspire you to action.

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19 Responses to 6 Sleep Tips for Tweens and Teens

  1. Mary Larsen says:

    Love these recommendations, and I think they can be just as useful for adults as they are for teens/tweens! Especially keeping the same sleep schedule throughout the week. It’s difficult, but it makes Monday mornings so much easier.

    • Leah DeCesare says:

      It’s true, Mary! It’s hard but helps. Teens have it worse than us with their requirements for sleep and their biology fighting against them. At least we adults generally FEEL sleepy at a reasonable bedtime! Hope you’re sleeping better – read your post about pregnancy-induced insomnia! Stinky! 🙁

    • Mykaela park says:

      I agree
      :b 🙂

  2. My kids already have sleep issues and they are 7 and 6. I can’t imagine what it’s going to be like when they’re teenagers.

    • Leah DeCesare says:

      You’ve got time before they’re teens 🙂 but you can definitely start to build healthy sleep habits now, little by little. It pays off in so many ways! Sweet dreams!

  3. Alicia Kamm says:

    Thanks for this Leah! How informative! It’s like a mini e-book!! Great tips and advice.

    • Leah DeCesare says:

      Thanks – that’s a compliment – especially as I struggled to keep it concise! There is just SO MUCH to address regarding sleep!

  4. Megan says:

    Thanks for the tips! They will definitely come in handy when I have kids in the future. I think I could use these tips to help my husband get some zzzz’s though. He’s been having a hard time sleeping these days.

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  10. Mykaela park says:

    Well I think that we should turn off lights 30 minutes before bed and little kids around the age of six should go to bed before the big kids around 10 and 12. Have the little kids go to sleep in a very quite room. Then ounce their asleep then take them in their room. Then tell the big kids to go to bed. And ounce there met maturity then it will be no problem if their in the Same room with the little kid. Have a warm room you don’t want to have too much of a warm room, they will not be able to go to sleep.
    If you walk into your little kids room or big kids room and they’re not asleep 2 hours later then you should probably make them some warm milk and make them go use the restroom. And if that doesn’t work than suggest going to a doctor. Or you can get ,ummmmmm…. I don’t remember the name for it but anyway u can go to your neareast pharmacist and ask for sleep gummies.
    And if your kid still can’t go to sleep then consider this fun idea.
    Search hipnotizer for sleep and it just might work!
    🙂 well I hope you will consider my sleep methods! See you next time!
    BYE :):):)

  11. tash says:

    On tip 6a: My local district made an announcement to make start times a bit later, so grades K-3 would start after 9, and 4-12 would start after 8. There was such a HUGE backlash from the community that they had to have public meetings to discuss the issue and came up with two alternate plans. the final solution was to push back start times a mere 15 minutes, and redo the bus routes so most kids now get on the bus between 10 and 50 minutes later then they did. I was very surprised at the backlash even when presented with research and facts to back up later start times as healthier and safer (safer with kids who drive, and with kids waiting in the dark for buses)

    • ldecesare says:

      Thanks for your comment. We had a similar situation in our town. It ended up costing the town $250.0 vs. the expected $90.0 and many kids ended up with EARLIER bus times with the new schedule before the bus schedule was re-worked. It caused an uproar for sure. I guess change is often hard and even with good evidence, sometimes the WAY it’s done is the issue more than the WHAT. The benefits are pretty clear, though, and our kids really do need the sleep. I know the later start time – initiated just this September – has benefited our family.

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