Monthly Archives: June 2012

French Friendships

June 24, 2012
[caption id="attachment_236" align="alignleft" width="250"] Letter from Bene[/caption]

It all began in seventh grade, my first year of French class, with $1 and an address. Twenty-nine years later, as my daughter finished up her first year of seventh grade French, my parents and my family of five traveled to Bordeaux and reunited with my penpal.

For a dollar in 1983, I got her address in Floirac, Bordeaux in southwestern France. Benedicte, Bene for short, was a year older than me, she wrote to me in English and I wrote to her in French. We were learning one another’s language and we craved more interaction, more practice, and a glimpse into each other’s lives.

Bene and I mailed pictures, books, postcards, maps, cassettes and trinkets along with lengthy letters. We corresponded for years without ever having met or spoken. We were intercontinental friends and eventually arranged our first meeting.

[caption id="attachment_259" align="alignleft" width="250"] Bene and me in France in the summer of 1989[/caption]

Dads and Doulas

June 17, 2012

I sometimes hear a Dad’s hesitation in hiring a doula. He’s involved in the pregnancy, supportive of his wife/partner, wants to be active and have a main role in the birth of his baby, so he’s thinking, “Why do we need her?” As a doula, I can assure all Dads, that I am not there [...]

Composing Your Birth Wishes: aka Birth Plan

June 12, 2012

Since you can’t plan how your labor and birth will unfold, I prefer to talk about your birth wishes or birth preferences than your birth plan. Honestly, I feel the biggest value in writing this document, is not in the end product, but in the process. Prenatally, it’s important for both Mom and Dad/partner (and [...]

Family Game Night: A Roll of the Dice

June 5, 2012

Nostalgic, 50’s-era images of family game night smile in my mind when I suggest a game together after dinner. Whenever we pull out a board game, I get the same cozy feeling of snuggling in with my kids and husband and I visualize the happy turn-taking, dice-rolling, card-drawing moments. Then the idyllic fantasies of harmonious [...]

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